Monday, March 12, 2012

So Snooki Is Pregnant - Monday Mommy Rant

Ok, so everybody out there seems to be aware of the latest reality tv word on the street - Snooki, everyone's favorite (or maybe not-so-favorite) party girl on the Jersey Shore, is pregnant. Snooki is going to be a Mom!! Just as everyone is now becoming aware of this news everyone also seems to have an opinion. I'm sure glad when I got pregnant with my first child that I didn't have a reality show on MTV because let me tell you that shit would have been a doozy. Why is it that we are so much harder on and expect so much more from celebrities than we do from ourselves?? I get that a portion of this gals life is on national television but does that suddenly give everyone, even myself, a right to have an opinion or especially judgement of another persons personal life to the extent of whether or not she is ready to become a Mother?? For the critiques - I'm not sure if you've watched the show but it is filmed while these young people are on VACATION. Now imagine your wildest Summer vacation before you had children...now add in all expenses paid fun while being filmed by a television crew for millions to sit back and enjoy. If you sent me on an all expenses paid vacation without my kids in tow I would make a damn fool out of myself. I would be partying every damn night with a full cup always in my hand, shaking my damn thing until I hit the floor and then sleeping in every day until dinner time. Sorry for party rocking. Do you really think after filming a season of the Jersey Shore that little Snooki goes home and continues to rock the party every remaining day of the year?? Hell - even if she did as a young woman with no children she's allowed to live the dream in whatever way she damn well pleases. Before I had kids, before any of us had kids, did we not do what we wanted to do, when we wanted to do it?? When I got pregnant with my first child I was 22 years old, more interested in club clothes and jello shots than most anything else and had recently been canned from the job from living hell. I took my licks over deciding I was ready to become a Mother but you know what...my son is the best decision I ever made. Becoming a Mom changes something inside of a person. I quickly learned what things in life were the most important, a compassion and tenderness I never knew I had inside of me bloomed and extended towards others, patience outgrew impatience, hard work and the satisfaction in that work became a new journey for me. I learned depths of love I had never known existed, I overcame struggles with new-found pride and confidence, I discovered values and unearthed parts of myself that I was not even aware I had. Every day with my children is a journey and I know without them I would never be the person I am today. Doesn't everyone deserve that CHANCE?? Before you throw your stones and cast your judgments perhaps take all of this into consideration. You never know what kind of a Mother someone is going to be until they actually get the chance to be one themselves.

4 comments:

Erica T said...

AGREE!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

To play Devil's Advocate; not everyone has the same turnout that you did. Which I'm sure you already know. The party girl lifestyle should be easy to quit once kids come along, and I hope that she's able to, but I know of a family or two where it didn't turn out that way. Where did those kids end up? In the system. Why? Because their mother hid alcohol in their bubble bath to get drunk when she couldn't quit partying. Because getting drugs was more important than groceries, rent, and her kids.

So, yes it's judgmental that people expect she will be a bad mother but she put herself in the spotlight. She put herself in the position where people can look down on her decisions. Judging Snooki is judging Snooki, not judging every single young mom out there who enjoys herself before kids.

itmom said...

Some of the things that have been said though are really beyond unnecessary and downright cruel. Celebrity or not I don't think anyone should have the right to speak about another human being in that way. A little compassion can go a long way in this crazy world.

Anonymous said...

Well said regarding our scathing criticism of celebrities! I am in total agreement. This argument "they put themselves out there for us to judge" is such a weak one, as it doesn't address each of our responsibility to stand the higher ground and not sink to the judging, preachy, "I am better than you" mentality.